tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8329398662181950824.post6059734864336166200..comments2023-05-09T21:16:36.415+08:00Comments on Life Is Like That: AttachmentJustin Choohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11275697990382930245noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8329398662181950824.post-79061414825158745782008-10-01T20:58:00.000+08:002008-10-01T20:58:00.000+08:00A true Malaysian,It is very difficult to make a fi...A true Malaysian,<BR/><BR/>It is very difficult to make a firm decision to become a monk if one is married with dependent children. Personally, I would not encourage anyone in this situation to become a monk. He has to fulfil his obligations as the head of the family and take care of them.<BR/><BR/>Only when the children are grown up and independent, then it is different.<BR/><BR/>That brings you to ask another question. Then what about Siddharta the prince? To leave family and children for spiritual pursuit at that time in India was quite common practice. Furthermore, the prince's family was well taken care of by the king.Justin Choohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11275697990382930245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8329398662181950824.post-18591675601358907372008-10-01T18:51:00.000+08:002008-10-01T18:51:00.000+08:00Justin,Is this 'Attachment' one of the reason why ...Justin,<BR/><BR/>Is this 'Attachment' one of the reason why Buddhist monk and nun are required to give up all their attachment ( or possession) which includes their immediate family members like husband, wife or children before they are qualified to be ordained as monk or nun?<BR/><BR/>Giving up of attachment like this is a very difficult matter to decide as to a certain extent, 'cruel' to their loved ones.<BR/><BR/>Are there any 'contradiction' in this matter to your point of view, Justin?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8329398662181950824.post-71696620341207733462008-10-01T01:17:00.000+08:002008-10-01T01:17:00.000+08:00Barry,Take a look at my 3 yr old granddaughter, Se...Barry,<BR/><BR/>Take a look at my 3 yr old granddaughter, Serena @ my other blog:<BR/>http://blackandwhite999.blogspot.com/2008/09/clowns.htmlJustin Choohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11275697990382930245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8329398662181950824.post-14900784408839898762008-10-01T01:14:00.000+08:002008-10-01T01:14:00.000+08:00Barry,I can understand. I have 2 adopted children...Barry,<BR/><BR/>I can understand. I have 2 adopted children of different race. Eldest daughter is now 26 and her younger brother is 22. <BR/><BR/>Not much problem with my son; but my daughter is so different. My wife and I are now taking care of our daughter's 3 yr old child full time.Justin Choohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11275697990382930245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8329398662181950824.post-91642617707196456522008-10-01T00:29:00.000+08:002008-10-01T00:29:00.000+08:00I raised my daughter as a single parent through he...I raised my daughter as a single parent through her teenage years (she's now a young adult). As a result, I have some experience this issue.<BR/><BR/>I produced great suffering for my daughter (much less for myself) because I was attached to certain ideas about how I thought her life should be.<BR/><BR/>As she grew up, the reality of her life finally exposed my attachment. It wasn't pretty. But I learned a great lesson: <BR/><BR/>If I could let go of any idea about how my daughter's life "should" be, and simply perceive her for who she actually was at any given time, then she would in that moment experience my full love.<BR/><BR/>In a very real sense, attachment to some idea prevents us from loving. And loving is the point!Barryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09412033978642026623noreply@blogger.com