HI...what does it mean if you love your children too much? Someone I was speaking to,made it seem in Buddhism you can't love your kids too much...it might have something to do with reincarnation,I'm not sure.We never finished our conversation on it and I need to understand this completely.Thanks for your help:)
Hi, the one with no name.
Thank you for asking me.
First I must say that I am in no position to answer your question directly, because it would be unfair of me to make judgment on such little information. However, I can express my opinion in general from the message that you provided.
It is very common (and a great problem) for people to misinterpret the Buddha's teachings, especially regarding subjects like craving, attachment, and desires. The Buddha's message is that if we blindly attach ourselves very strongly to things or persons, we will in the end suffer when these things or persons are taken from us. If we are crazy seeking ways to fully satisfy our every desire we will in the end suffer when we realize that we cannot have full satisfaction from all our desires. The Buddha advised us to be very careful when we are especially attracted to things or persons because of the inevitable consequence of losing them in the end. Moreover, in the process of this grasping or attachment of things or persons, we inevitably want to exert control over them, thinking that they belong to us and we have every right to control and manipulate them at our whims and fancies.
The advice is to be careful not to be over-attached or become over-obsessed over our possessions; and this includes our loved ones. We must definitely love our children. We must love them a lot. This is the duty of parents. To neglect them or to reduce our love for them is downright foolishness. The Buddha's advice was that if we were attached to things or persons, be mindful that one day we might have to part. With this mindfulness when things get wrong we will not be too devastated.
What has reincarnation got to do with this?!! By the way the Buddha explained the concept of "rebirth" and not "reincarnation" which is a different concept. Should you wish to know about this, please come back.