Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Question : (Unedited)
how do buddhists view love?
Thank you for asking me.
By "love" I take it as "passionate and physical" love. Buddhist context of "love" is "compassionate" love.
First let me comment on Buddhist compassionate love. The dictionary defines it as "sympathetic consciousness of others' distress together with a desire to alleviate it". It is love without conditions. Another term is spiritual love or universal love. There is nothing to do with whether you like the person or not. You still can show compassionate love to the person even though you do not like him.
Coming back to passionate or physical love. This love in the mundane form, has a lot of conditions imposed on it. You love the person because you like him very much, with all your conditions being fulfilled. This type of love can only be maintained so long as your set conditions are fulfilled. Once they fall short of your expectations, the intensity of the love also diminishes. This is the danger of "love" people all over the world are talking about. "If only YOU satisfy MY conditions, My love for You will be "forever"! This is the trend of thinking, attitude and expectation of people falling in love. It is the path leading to disasters given time; sometimes in a very short span of time! And if the two persons in love have the same demanding expectations, then it's just a time bomb, waiting to explode, surely.